Sociality [n] - the tendency to associate with others and to form social groups

Hardly would a human tendency be as underplayed as this one is. A Libran by birth (and they are born introverts, all right) and a progressively discreet extrovert by nature, I've learnt it, mostly, the hard way.

An introvert, when inducted into new surroundings, is extremely wary and spends a huge chunk of time initially just testing waters. He is wary of saying things which may hurt oldies, yet, he is desparate to throw in his bit of witticisms, hoping to impress them. A classic case in point is when you are a child and your folks shift base to a new locality, you visit the nearby playground to exhaust your juvenile enthusiasm. You envy the other children playing. Your first reaction? You stand besides the "leader", as it may be, and try and sweet talk your way into his heart and eventually into the group.

I've never understood the want as far as gaining acceptance into pre-formed groups is concerned. Having said that, I'd be the first person you'd see doing the exact thing mentioned. And, the answer's just bloody sociality! Ironically, an extant group (and I've been in some) generates in itself the greatest resistance to the new entrant. As a part of the group, you'd feel immense satisfaction in gratuitously pointing out small follies in him and thus demeaning his candidature as far as inclusion into the group may be concerned.

Methinks, the only pre-requisite, if you will, should be the way he thinks and gels with you. It'd be extremely unfair on him if you were to judge him on his:

• nationality (aka racism; not trying to get on to the Shilpa Shetty gravy train here)
• the great indian northie-southie divide (you'd be extremely conversant with this if you were a North Indian working in Bangalore)
• looks (it's hard to ignore the high percentage of the reject-cases that fall into this sect. Studies have proven that better-lookers have a headstart at whatever they venture out to do. Having said that, the ugly are burdened with a low self-esteem, which may explain the above statement)
• pelf-power (an antidote to the ugly problem. Its another story that the rich are never ugly!)

Now, I'd be honest enough to admit that I've exploited others using the above. At the same time, I've been victimised too. Isn't it funny we cry out for justice only when we're the persecuted? As the tyrannous, the world's just a fine playground. Go ahead. It's our to plunder!

Career Blues......Leaving Infy

there comes a time in ur life when u feel really stagnated.......at infy i had started to feel the same way.....i mean gettin stuck in a damn IBU which would neither process my visa nor give me work, forced me to re-think whether i should be workin for infy....ergo, some news for ya....I had asked my DM for arelease....he said that I would be most probably released by this weekend or the middle of next week max.....woopsie daises!!.....…soI guess it all ended a bit prematurely....i was sorta expecting to stay this month in infy....but then I'll cheer myself up by sayin that whatever happens, happens for the best....i would most probably haul my ass up to Nagpur and then spend the rest of my month there....would be back in pune on the april 1st....and no april fool joke this....it feels weird....i guess u have to brace urself up for this feeling of torrid solitude when u take such a major step like say leavin a company....but then lemme assure u, it hits u in the pit of ur stomach when u realize that things are never gonna be the same again.....i guess some things just are meant to be taken head on and cant be dealt with pure prescience....i have got a job in a company called torry harris business solutions in bangalore and would be shiftin base from pune.......it gives me a cool pay and would most probably send me onsite within anyear.......so dats dat for me infy......this friday the 10th is my last day in infy......would really miss infy.......but they cant snatch away all of u, my memories from me.......